You Do Not Deserve Happiness

By: Derek Wellock

Welp, back at it again.  Going to bring something up that I have been thinking about and I am curious what others think on the topic.  In our society I constantly see and hear you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be fulfilled with who you are.  I get that I am speaking from a place, that will not resonate with everyone. I have been blessed with a great opportunity in my life, and I have had to work really hard to make sure those opportunities turned into results.  But during the ups and downs of life, I have experienced great joy and also sorrow and struggle. This is what I have learned during the last few months and I would like to share.

With all the opportunity and gifts God has blessed me with, I still struggled to find peace and joy with where I am at in my life.  Some will say, I am ungrateful, some will say I am spoiled, some will say I am an idiot. Well, I don’t really care anymore what some think of me, because for the first time in my life, I am now becoming 100% confident in who I am, what I have overcome, and what I am doing.   With that said. I was not happy and fulfilled because I realized I was leaving so much on the table, I hadn’t even begun to tap into the full potential of who I am, and what I am capable of.

Since my 10,000 push-challenge, that lightbulb clicked, I saw that I was still full of excuses and not doing my job living my life to the fullest.  I was trying to tell myself to be happy with what I have and what I have done, but deep down that didn’t mean anything because I knew I was coming up short in my spiritual life, my family life, my health and fitness, my leadership at work, and my passion and desire to coach people.  I was only playing at 50% max. When I sat down and had an honest conversation with myself about my purpose, and what I want, like a great family, 6 pack abs, thriving business, and helping people dominate their goals. I had to get my shi* figured out. Now that I am owning my B.S., I have started winning.  Uterally dominating all these aspects of my life. Now there is still lots of room for improvement and the personality I possess which I have now accepted that I will never be satisfied and I will always be moving the bar. But knowing that, and knowing I am putting in the work and the discipline every single day, I am feeling fulfillment for the first time in my life.  

With that said, I want to give you a tactical tip.  Look in the mirror, write down on paper what you really want in your life,  your fitness, all of it. What is your purpose and desire? Then write down the simple daily action items you can do to have the daily outcomes that will ultimately contribute to those goals.  The daily actions are the only thing we have complete control over, we have no control over tomorrow, or the goal, or anything else, but what is in front of us at this moment in our day. So, write it down, then fuc*king do it, every single day, after 30 days of that you will feel the momentum of the simple wins stacking up on you.  You will dominate!

Let me know your thoughts.  As always let’s grab a coffee, hit me up on my cell phone, email, on Instagram @DEcoach_derek.  I am here to help you thrive. I am here to coach! Let’s start winning!